Self-Love: How to Nurture Inner Peace

To me, the best training you can get is from daily life. I think we all have had interactions such as, for instance, in road traffic where some drivers can behave like animals.

Just outside my home, there's a country lane which covers a couple of kilometers and I always come across drivers who yield and greet me and it feels like we are on the same wavelength — and there are others who are outrightly domineering, who won't yield and expect you to yield, you don't know how and why, and on top of that, aren't even grateful, leaving you wondering why this still happens in 2020. Why is that you have this kind of perception that you should dominate everyone around you? Why can't you just say “thank you” and why can't you understand that together we can all have fraternal relationships? What is it that prevents you from having such relationships?

The answer is up to them. Everyone is on their own different level of evolution. Therefore I won't play his ego game. Because it's an ego domination game they're in. If I get into this, if I get angry, he wins. Anger is a weakness, so I won't be overwhelmed by it. I can feel anger rise inside, yet I choose to let go. I don't want to hurt myself for I know that my anger won't hurt him — he won't change because I get angry at him — but it definitely will hurt me. And these two minutes could ruin a wonderful day when I was so happy to get to where I wanted to go. So I come to my senses (since, again, I can only work to change myself) and tell myself that it's no big deal and still sincerely wish him to change his viewpoint because we really need the world to change. I wish him all the best from the bottom of my heart.

Sending love to Your SELF

While the watchword would be to “send him love”, I, for one, find that utterly hypocritical as most of the times, we don't mean it. It is so hypocritical to say that as I explained a couple of years ago in a workshop video. Saying that you must send love to the other person is completely daft. And absolutely wrong. Because in those circumstances where they really pissed you off (that's the word), they're not the one who need love! The one who is upset is you. You're unhappy because they misbehaved. I'm starting to feel angry therefore I'm the one who needs love since I'm straying from my own light. I am actually creating the consequences. However, the consequences may end with me instead of me sending and amplifying them. Therefore I'm the one who needs love. It means I need to calm down.

So how can I calm down? Through full awareness.

I am fully aware that the domineering behaviour totally lacks awareness. This person is hypnotised. They might simply be stuck in their own doldrums, caught up in a mental loop. There is nobody home and they are so worried that perhaps they're not even aware of what is happening. I don't know. I don't know this person. I cannot judge her through the game they play. Who knows, under normal circumstances, they may be quite cool. I have no idea. So I come back to my senses and acknowledge that that I don't know. I don't know why. i don't know the reasons why I'm experiencing this situation, but all I know is the attitude and the response I can adopt. This is where I can have control.

Therefore I need to send love to myself. It's okay Lulu, no big deal. I will still have a great day and also I sincerely hope this man will be able to move on and I wish him the very best. And I really mean it for we want to help people. Simply because we wish everyone could help one another so that we become more receptive and more fraternal in our interactions. This is far from being unhealthy. But on the other hand, if instead you feel angry (“this is wrong, he's such a pain in the ass, I'm going to send him love”),  this comes as purely hypocritical because, anyway, when you reside in your mental body, your love cannot go anywhere. Don't fool yourself, this is not love you're sending. You must stop claiming that. You need to send love to yourself. This how I send love to myself. Thus I come to full awareness and no longer harbour any animosity against this person as I understand — am aware of the situation. This is what sending love means. It's sending love to yourself. This is the first step to be able to really love the other person for who they are, i.e. I don't wish ill to this man, but I can understand him.

A daily learning process

Finally, I think that once you understand the basic principle of self-love, you can apply it on a daily basis to any situation. Thus, you will notice when you're hurting yourself.  I said 'no', but I actually meant 'yes' — I'm hurting myself! I agreed to take charge of everything, but now I don't feel like it anymore— I'm hurting myself!

It happens every time you bypass your deep inner desire.

It might seem trivial, but I hear from people who don't like their job, who don't like their partner, and who can't see how they ended up in this situation. It's through all these little things. And now they would like a magic wand to change things!

I get messages from people who write “I'm waiting for the world to change so that my life can change at last”. Your life is actually all the consequences of what you did not apply to yourself — of all this non-love. Now if you start with little things such as stopping to not loving yourself and not respecting your will (your true will) — this is self-love, then you'll see that things will change. You will see that real life is about doing the things we love and that everything falls into place through the little things we do on a daily basis, through the people we meet every day and all the influences, all the stuff you did inside. All these things fall into place because they also create positive consequences for your own well-being. And you will be the first to see it. Also because you'll be at the forefront. All this is for you.

One more thing to avoid guilty feelings. You need to know that it's fairly simple yet not very easy. The simplest things are not necessarily easy to apply. It's okay if you have trouble at first and then say “I didn't listen to myself”, etc. The first step is the will to change and implement new things within you. The rest will follow progressively. It's just like when you learn to ride a bike. So you shouldn't feel guilty, take it easy — as easy as possible. Make it fun too, it helps a lot. Also, don't take things too seriously, be light and consider that you'll have a whole new day tomorrow to improve. The great thing is that's the purpose of our being here so no strain.

Original text by LULUMINEUSE translated from French by EY@EL
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Self-Love: How to Stay Centred in Times of Trouble

To stay centred and aligned with yourself is the same as maintaining your inner peace. You cannot achieve inner peace while focusing your attention on the outside. In other words, in times of trouble, I can't wait for things on the outside to turn right in order to find inner peace because it will never happen. It's been this way for thousands of years on this planet with all the crimes committed against humans, animals and everything.

You cannot be at peace while waiting for the outside world to be at peace. No, you need to find your own peace first as it's only when eight billion human beings find their own inner peace that things will begin to change and that peace can be created. Peace needs to be created inside first and not until everything settles down on the outside. It's not “Okay, now everything's fine so I'm fine too!” It's not the way it goes.

So how can you stay centred in times of trouble?

Of course, we're constantly affected by external sources from people under stress, news on TV,  social media... anything which has a negative impact and which you consume just like junk food. At this point, it's very important to limit those influences.

It's exactly the same as when you eat candy all day. Make no mistake, after a while it's going to affect your health. You will develop tooth cavities, become overweight or... I don't know. There are many possible consequences. Same here: what you watch, what you listen to, what you understand, and the folks you hang around with do have a tremendous impact on your state of mind and your state of being.

First of all, you'll need to be even more selective within because you will be constantly subjected to negative influences. Thus you feel urged to dig deep, sort things out, etc., and in addition, it truly sucks your energy because it's very hard to stay afloat when you're exposed to toxic fumes all the time. It's hard not be impacted when all this toxicity is blown a you.

So the first thing is to surround yourself with the right people. There are people, in my opinion, whom I can love best if there is a safe distance between us. We do understand that they're dwelling in their own consequences and do not necessarily wish to create harmony within. It's either because they're unable to or because they don't get the point. In short, your role is not to convince them anyway. So these people have their own path to travel.

It doesn't mean you have to bear the consequences of their chosen path so you'll find there are people you appreciate better when they're not around and when you don't have to constantly interact with them because every time you do, you feel drained when you get back home or after a phone-call. I'm sure thousands of people experience this on a daily basis. They know when they get a call from this particular person that they will get drained and exhausted afterwards. There is a reason to that. These are warning signs. We are sensitive beings. We know and we feel things. We don't need to express them to feel them. So, it's important to limit the impact of external influences.

Some people come to me in a panic and say “Ahaa! There we go, I don't know who to believe or what to listen to. What's next, Lulu?” First of all, stop reading about anything and everything everywhere right now. What good does it do except delving into your fears? Do you want to control the future? Nobody knows, nobody can. The only thing you can control is your present moment in the Now. You need to stay aligned with it because the only thing you can control today is your state of being in the Now. You cannot hold anything outside of you, you cannot control events. But you can control yourself, yes you can. You can be the master of the thoughts transiting inside.

Acquiring mastery over involutive emotions for the common good

When you start getting mad at something —  a self-help concept I totally disagree with is when people say you need to live your emotions to the full. So when you're angry, you need to live your anger to the full! Come on, that 's how infanticides are committed every day. In two months during lockdown, hundreds of thousands of children got killed this way. So no, you don't do this. “I acknowledge there is a feeling of anger growing in me and I'm fully aware that it can hack me off and prompt me to take action in something totally uncentred.”

Anger can create an enormous storm within that will affect all my organs, awashing them with destructive energy and extremely low frequencies, and thus weaken my immune system. And later on, there will be a price to pay for this low-frequency storm. In addition, if I blow out and start throwing stuff or say things I don't mean, all my family will be impacted. I will have an impact with consequences that will reiterate over very long periods of time. For today, right now, we are still in the aftermath of what happened a long, long time ago.

To stop hurting yourself is also understanding that there are involutive emotions which do no not serve me and that I need to detect them before getting dispossessed of myself. Sorry, but when you're totally washed away with anger, you're no longer yourself, you are dispossessed of yourself. Hence the phrase: “ I was beside myself”. You're no longer yourself, it's not the light speaking through you, but the angst which dispossessed you. It's the angst speaking, not you. So now you need to understand and take responsibility for ceasing to give substance to such involutive feelings.

Imagine seven billion people doing that. There would be no more infanticides, in this specific case of anger. You would no longer get angry at a child or a woman, a man, an animal.. to kill them. So let's just imagine how the world itself would change if we acquired such mastery over involutive feelings. Self-love is far from being a fantasy land conspiracy!

Full awareness means being aware of what's going on through me and taking sole responsibility for it. Indeed, the world we live in today where courts try crimes of passion, which implies that we find excuses to the fact that someone may have been so much in love that they felt the urge to kill another. It only highlights a serious issue about the lack of self-control, self-awareness and self-development of this inner consciousness.

For me self-help (or self-development) is everything but personal. It has a universal reach. It a development which is common to everyone in fact. It's for the common good. The good of all. It's not a self thing.

To be continued and concluded soon...

Original text by LULUMINEUSE translated from French by EY@EL
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Self-Help: How to Actually Love Yourself

In Love Always
Pros and cons usually are hatred.
They stare at me, assuming that
I am this girl whom I'm actually not.
Too fragile, going into exile,
Too many tell-tale nights
Alienating me from myself.

"Tandem", Vanessa Paradis (1990)

It seems only 'natural' in such an absurd world as ours, ruled by doublethink, to declare self-love as an egoistical, antisocial practice, if not a sure sign of sociopathy!

In fact, sociopaths are what they are because they have no self-love at all. How could they possibly give out something they don't have within? How can you hope to love people if you don't love yourself? How can you feel the love they send you if you can't feel it within you? Why would you expect sociopaths in power to promote anything else but self-loathing and hatred of others (who, by the way, are just our reflection in the mirror)?

From the perspective of the broken logic of our mental programming, such statements might sound totally ludicrous, stupid and preposterous to those who don't buy into this nonsense. If you're one of those, I am truly sorry for you dear friends, but maybe you stumbled upon this article because your Higher Self actually wanted to draw your attention?

If not, I sincerely hope this transcript from a a 30-minute long video by Lulumineuse will prove as helpful for you as it has been for me in your quest for happiness. Since it's a long read, I chose to divide it in three distinct parts which will be pos Ey@el

What is self-love and how can you love yourself? I think the most fundamental thing you need to understand first is that you need to approach it in reverse. Let me explain: instead of asking: “How can I love myself?”, you should ask: “How can I stop hurting myself?”

I stop hurting myself when I let Love be. Love is already within because we are beings of pure Love (i.e. all our cells have been created by the Universal Abundance which is Love, the Source, God, the Tao... you name it). It is an infinite, universal creative force you find everywhere. It is omniscient, omnipresent, omnipotent — it's Love and that's what we are. So “How can I love myself?” becomes “How can I stop hurting myself on a daily basis?”. A comprehensive reply would be: “I listen to myself”. Now the problem is “How can I listen to myself?”

So how can I listen to myself, Lulu?

You should start with the most simple things, that is everything which takes place inside of you. Do you really love yourself when you torment yourself, brooding, harping on pervasive ideas which do not serve you and which poison and trap you? Do you really love yourself when from 9 to 11am, you consistently remind yourself that you have to hang out the laundry just like some kind of a persecutor would do and just as if it was actually a threat hanging over you? Do you really love yourself right now? No, you're actually hurting yourself. Because you blame yourself and you set up your own inner tyranny. These little details in your daily life show how you prevent yourself from loving yourself. You need to sort out pervasive thoughts, tormenting thoughts, and straining thoughts because they are like prison chains. Nothing can ever hurt you as much as your own thoughts. Nothing can ever upset you as much as your own thoughts.

And the first thing you need to understand is “What is it that I create inside?” “ What do I allow to happen inside of me?”

I need to be the master of my own thoughts. It doesn't mean I need to be 'controlling'. It means that I need to manage the impact of my own thoughts on my body, on my psyche, and on the way I live. I don't want to worry all morning long because of that laundry thing. Whereas if I free myself from this thought and head for self-love... what does it mean? It means I make the choice to free myself from this castration, from this pressure (even if it's just an insignificant thought), and I choose to trust that Providence, the Love which applies to everything in the Universe, will provide a natural window (maybe at 10:39am) where everything falls into place so that I can hang out my laundry in five minutes and in good spirit.

This is what self-love feels like in you daily life. It is that simple, but 'that simple' uplifts your spirits everyday, while your mood also affects everyone's mood around like your family, your partner, your children, and even your pets if you have any. Your mood has tremendous impact on your close circle, but also on the people you meet during the day, whether it's through messaging or in the flesh. You bet it does, because your vibration is different!

You're no longer hypnotised by your own thoughts. You are in control of yourself i.e. you have done the sorting job so as to remain available and so are you for the people you meet. And thus you'll see who is available and who is not when you meet them. You will find that many people don't do that job. They are hypnotised, they're not in self-love for they actually don't even know that this is something you can work on. It is the first thing you need to be aware of.

How can I find self-reassurance?

The process we usually go through to find self-reassurance is actually a great source of anxiety. Do you really think that constantly reminding yourself you have to hang out the laundry in order to ensure it does get done is in any way appeasing? It is not and will create more anxiety! So, you need to understand that which you believe is reassuring for you actually creates the opposite. It is the complete opposite of feeling positive. This is control i.e. I keep the upper hand for sure, but I keep the upper hand on an external event of which I don't know all the specifics. I am still in a state of fear that it won't get done, which means I don't know what is going to happen. I have to hang out the laundry this morning because I won't be home this afternoon, so I must absolutely do it now. But who knows, in five minutes' time my kid may ask me something that will take me half an hour and I won't have time after that, I still have to tidy up the place, etc. I'm constantly trying to control things yet I do not get a grip on events. I don't know whether my kid will need help. I don't know whether my stuff... right now, I might trip on something and then I will need to tidy the room. I have no idea what might happen. The only control I can have is over myself.

What does “how to cope with inner stuff” mean?

It means I need to find self-reassurance, but how? Well, through example. Because you have gained this mastery, you have controlled this thought saying to yourself “there will be a window where my laundry gets done”, you apply it to everything. And all of a sudden, given that you have let go and that your mind is greatly available, everything falls in its right place. You get ideas that could never have crossed your mind before because you were totally busy and overwhelmed. And given that you have made space, a new availability sets in. And born of this new availability is a new organisation. This organisation is more intuitive, more instinctive and thus is based on Love — where do you think intuition comes from? It comes from the Great Force, the Great Intelligence hence Love! So, when you make room for this intuitive space, all of a sudden, you find that at 10:37am everything gets done... wow! So now, I have five minutes to go and hang out my laundry. It's amazing how everything worked out in the end!

Therefore out of this comes experience. And with experience you grow an ever-increasing faith. That I know it will be taken care of because I am a vibrating energy, I know what I have vibrated, and I know that all this energy, all this whole which I'm part of, responds in harmony with what I'm vibrating. The Universe doesn't work against me, I work with the Universe.

So, in the first instance, there I am nurturing the same thought and I have the impression that things work against me so I need to control them while I actually have no power over them. But in the second instance, when I decide to free myself, I can feel that together we work in harmony and that I will be given a window to do what I have asked for because this is how I need to do it. This is what self-love is like. It starts with respecting and trying not to control all the life involved around you, ignoring your own thoughts which eventually hide from you the availability to do things.

To be continued soon...

Original text by LULUMINEUSE translated from French by EY@EL
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Deep Days

We are the people on the edge of the night
Drawn in together now and hold the light
We start this dance tonight, never to drop
Moving together now, we won't ever stop

Where you go, I will go
Where you stay, I will stay
Where you sleep, I will sleep
And when you rise, I will rise
Where you go, I will go
And if you fall, you can fall on me

My days are spent within the sound of your voice
My nights are spent within the reach of your hand
We start this dance tonight and never to drop
Moving together, girl, we won't ever stop

Where you go, I will go
Where you stay, I will stay
Where you sleep, I will sleep
And when you rise, I will rise
Where you go, I will go
And if you fall, you can fall on me

Where you go, I will go
Where you stay, I will stay
Where you sleep, I will sleep
And when you rise, I will rise

Where you go, I will go
Where you stay, I will stay
Where you sleep, I will sleep
And when you rise, I will rise
Where you go, I will go
And if you fall, you can fall on me

Original text by ED O'BRIEN

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Magic Powder

Six years ago, I posted my first homemade cosmetic recipes on the French blog. Included was a deodorant talcum powder which I quickly abandoned because it wasn't convenient to use. I then switched to a very efficient cream deodorant made with coconut oil, arrow root and baking soda with beeswax to use it a stick deodorant. After years of satisfied use, I eventually dropped it because it still had too many drawbacks (baking soda didn't dissolve properly resulting in over-concentration in places and was irritating my skin; during the summer, you had to keep it refrigerated to prevent melting; it was difficult to apply when reaching the end of the container; and it was such a pain in the neck to clean the container to make some more). I also tried a baking soda-free gel deodorant made with aloe vera before stumbling upon a French online shop of homemade natural cosmetics and was thrilled at their idea of using a roll-on to apply a deodorant powder — why didn't I think of that?

So I used the list of ingredients of their product as a basis to create mine with some additions and I find it very convenient to use all year, ultra quick to make, virtually unlimited storage life (kept in a dry place) and easy to recycle. Also, it is perfectly suitable for adults and children alike even with the most sensitive skin.

Ingredients

Makes 40 g:

- 15 g white clay
- 12,5 g arrow root powder
- 10 g baking soda
- 2,5 g orris root powder
- 6 drops lavandin super oil (optional)

Properties

Orris root (also called “violet root” because of its most sought-after fragrance by perfumers) protects the sensitive skin of your armpits while relieving irritation and preserving its elasticity. White clay absorbs excess moisture whereas arrow root retains the powder on your skin rather than on your clothes. Finally, baking soda eliminates the bacteria responsible for unpleasant body odours.

Instructions

All you need to do is whisk all powders in a glass or ceramic bowl, then add the essential oil and stir well with a wooden spoon. Transfer to a recycled roll-on container. If you don't have any, you may find one in specialised shops online. Otherwise, an old recycled baby powder container or a compact will do. You may also apply with a powder brush, but it won't be as convenient as a roll-on.

NOTE: You may skip the essential oil or substitute the lavandin super (hybrid lavender) for another oil, but make sure you get all the information you need about its properties and uses as some oils (such as cinnamon or oregano for instance) can be highly dermocaustic or photosensitising (all citrus oils are). Some safe options are palmarosa, tea-tree, sage, geranium, sandalwood, vetiver. Some (such as vetiver) have a very strong fragrance, so you may want to reduce dosage and test by adding one drop at a time.

It should also be said that this deodorant won't block perspiration which is essential to the elimination of toxins, but will regulate it and prevent bad odours. Therefore, if you had previously been using an astringent deodorant to tighten your skin pores, expect a fortnight period for your body to adapt. You may also use it on your hands and feet if you sweat a lot.

Whack! Bad smells off!

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The Importance of Emotional Neutrality

According to self, it's as if we should remain in a state of emotional trance where we are super positive all the time. But it's all wrong! Because it's actually extrapolating. It's all about the divided principles as explained in another video.

You can be in a high or low polarity emotional state. So, when you are in a high polarity, it's going to be extremely difficult to remain there. You cannot sustain it because a high polarity will automatically attract a low polarity. And you know why? It's because a connecting point is expected — the perfect point of neutrality.

So, through the law of attraction, that high polarity when you really feel “so happy, so thrilled, so elated” is inevitably bound to bring on a moment where you will feel the opposite (because everything is ruled by the law of attraction). Therefore, you need not to reside in any polarity but at the junction point, ie neutrality.

It amuses me because, not so long ago, my husband was so elated and ecstatic about leaving, I told him: “Stop it, can you just calm down!”

“Yes, but I feel so happy! I'm SO happy!”

“The problem is you're super happy NOW, but don't you realise every time you end up irritated and upset maybe within the next hour.”

Because exactly as I said one polarity brings on its opposite.

“No, I won't!”

And right after he starts getting tired of driving and everything.

“Oh, I've had enough, I need to stop ! Argh, I've missed the exit again!”

I tell him: “Look at yourself now, can't you see?”

And the truth is you don't always realise it.

Finding the point of neutrality doesn't mean you can't be ecstatic, but feeling this way sends our emotions on a roller-coaster and it's no good for emotional control. You can be perfectly neutral and yet have a sense of fulfilment. You don't need to be totally ecstatic and jump up and down. You can be serene and feel fulfilled. This is what true neutrality feels like. In addition, it allows detachment.

Original text by LULUMINEUSE translated from French by EY@EL
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Pharma Police

Pharma Police, arrest this man

He wears no mask, he sneezes like a lidge

He looks like a deboned cameo

Pharma Police, arrest this girl

Her killer stare does really make me shriek

And we have deemed her unhealthy

This is what you get,

This is what you get,

This is what you get,

When you mess with us

Pharma Police,

I've snitched anyone I could,

It's not enough

Pharma Police,

I've snitched anyone I could,

But we're still on the death roll

This is what you get,

This is what you get,

This is what you get,

When you mess with us

For a minute there

I ditched myself, I ditched myself

Phew, for a minute there,

I ditched myself, I ditched myself

NOTE: Any resemblance with the lyrics of "Karma Police" by Radiohead is purely intentional.

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